Slaying the Impostor Syndrome Gremlin

It’s funny how easily the gremlins can sneak up on you.

Since my first post, I’ve had a small gremlin voice in my mind questioning whether I should blog. Questioning the value of what I have to give. Urging me to backtrack and remove this website from existence.

It’s only today that I’ve recognised that voice for what it is.

Impostor syndrome

This is a term that almost every PhD student and academic would be familiar with. It’s a feeling that you’re not smart enough, capable enough, hardworking enough, that your research and your voice are of no value, and that you are a fraud, seconds away from being discovered.

Just Google “PhD Impostor Syndrome” and a plethora of articles and resources will appear in the search results to detail the problem and make suggestions for managing it.

I rather like the contributions of Jennifer Walker and James Hayton. Jennifer’s article provides an important reflection on how the impostor syndrome can manifest in harmful behaviours, while James’ post provides some helpful suggestions on mindset changes to manage the gremlins.

I agree that mindset changes are important. Viewing yourself as a student and, importantly, giving yourself permission to learn, to make mistakes, to question, and to explore ideas, is the kindest thing that you can do for yourself.

Giving yourself permission to be a student is also the most strategic thing you can do for progressing your PhD.

Logically, when you think about it, you will get nowhere if those gremlins have your ear all the time. People succeed when they feel happy and when they have confidence in their abilities. Out-of-control gremlins erode confidence, and low confidence does not help you to return to work on the PhD day after day.

I feel panicked when my impostor syndrome gremlins are in charge. My chest gets tight, I want to hide away, I question my abilities, I procrastinate and have difficulty concentrating, and I avoid some things like mail and email. I will open fifty-gazillion tabs on my computer in the name of “research”, and then feel overwhelmed by them. I will obsess over the phrasing of a paragraph, repeatedly going over it to try to make it “better”. It makes for a pretty unpleasant experience, to say the least.

So, how do I deal with these impostor syndrome gremlins? For me, it’s a multi-step process. First, I have to acknowledge the gremlins. Second, I rebuild my work habits. And third, I practice self-compassion throughout the process.

To some extent I have to ride the gremlins out. I have to let myself feel them. I have to acknowledge their presence and then construct a new narrative in my mind that says, “Hey, you know what? You’re actually doing okay. You’ve got this.” Gremlins are needy – they like your attention. Acknowledge and observe what they are saying, and then move on.

For me, this means that I start again. I rebuild my self-confidence to work on my PhD. Just small, bite size chunks to begin with. In this regard, the use of the pomodoro technique is great, and I also use the meditation app Headspace to calm my gremlins. I talk about the experience – I talk to friends, to family, to a psychologist, and to my PhD peers. The connection to other people and the normalisation of the experience – it’s not just me – helps me to begin to thrive again.

Finally, the practice of self-compassion during the rebuilding process is integral. A question I like to ask myself when I catch my critical gremlins is, “Would I say that to a friend?” and the answer is always no. I then ask: “What would I say to a friend in my situation?” In a way, this allows a deeper truth from myself and about myself to emerge that is separate to my gremlins. This deeper truth is kind and forgiving, and it is supportive of my abilities, my contributions, and my value.

Of course, I am not perfect at following these steps. Like all things in life, the experience is rather haphazard and it can feel like taking two steps forward and then one step back. The important thing is to give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling without letting the gremlins to take control.

Meditation and connection to people can calm gremlins. A self-compassionate narrative also soothes gremlins. If gremlins are something you experience, then, chances are, they will always exist in your life to some degree or another – PhD or no PhD. It’s up to you to recognise them and soothe them, but it does not have to be a lonesome task. You can be a slayer too. We can be slayers together.

One Reply to “Slaying the Impostor Syndrome Gremlin”

  1. The imposter syndrome is real… I agree that it will likely wax and wane throughout our lives , no matter how far we progress in our careers. Learning to live with it is key. Considering oneself as the perpetual student may be the answer? As well as self compassion of course.

    I try to convince myself that the anxiety I feel is actually adrenaline. It propels me into action and lets me know I am alive and what I am doing has meaning. We may not be able to control the feeling, but we may be able to change the way we ‘code’ the feeling.

    Once you have a few more blogs up and running I think you should consider submitting some of them to Tiny Buddha?

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